You might be wondering, “Who is this girl and why in the world does she have a site about *gasp* sex?”
If you stick around for any length of time, you’ll learn that I love talking about sex. Ask any of my friends: on a visit to see one of my college roommates, I asked her about how she was doing with her boyfriend. With a smile and laugh, she responded, “I knew we’d have a sex talk!” And honestly, I love this reputation. When I saw another friend a few weeks later, we started talking about her IUD and how it was lowering her sex drive. She knew I’d answer in accordance with my science knowledge* as well as my care for her and my desire for her to have a fabulous intimate relationship with her husband.
God planted this seed back in college. I was working toward completing my undergraduate studies to head to medical school when God stopped me so I could reevaluate why I wanted to become a doctor. My intellectual passion centers around science, specifically biology, and I wanted to use my talents to help teenagers. By the time I had taken my MCAT and started applying to medical schools, I slowly realized (as I listened to His still, small voice speaking to me) that I wouldn’t have the impact I sought if only saw my patients whenever they needed a sports physical or got sick. I switched to teaching and, unbeknownst to me, so did my future husband, whom I had dated but was no longer dating. (We had broken up for many reasons, one of which was that our life plans didn’t match up. But now they somehow did when we both took time to get closer to the Lord. Coincidence? I think not).
Then I started teaching health (which includes sex ed) at an urban public high school. I wasn’t even supposed to teach the subject but the master teacher I was student teaching under had it as part of her schedule so I did too. I fell in love with every aspect of it and realized teaching biology and health fulfilled my vocational calling of helping/influencing teenagers while daily using my talents and love of science. Add in my own struggles with physical intimacy with my husband (3 gynecologists, an acupuncturist, and a physical therapist later) plus some crazy hormone issues and I was neck-deep in learning everything I could about how bodies work and how to make sex (within marriage!) the amazingly fulfilling experience God intended it to be.
Along the way, I’ve also had several opportunities to give adult Christian women “the talk” because their parents simply told them that sex was for marriage and it would be great. I’ve counseled many other women regarding their hormones and birth control options, since as any form of birth control (even natural family planning!) is often considered taboo in conservative families. This lack of understanding such an amazing part of God’s creation breaks my heart, both as a scientist and as a woman created in His image.
After having taught sex ed several times, I noticed how uniquely called and equipped God made me to teach all sorts of people about the amazing complexities of their inner workings, both physical and otherwise. Saddened by the prospect of not being able to teach health again after leaving the teaching profession to stay home with our young kiddos, I voiced my disappointment to a friend who encouraged me to share my knowledge on the internet. The dream God planted in me years ago was not dead, just dormant.
Fast forward a few months and I sent out a survey to discover what women knew about fertility awareness versus natural family planning in preparation for writing a guest post on the difference between the two. One of my friends viewing it messaged me and asked how passionate I was about discussing hormones, birth control, sex, etc. She and a group of her friends had been praying for someone to come along to address these topics in a frank yet Christ-honoring manner. A snowball rolling down a hill turned into an avalanche and this site was born. I had no idea that other women had been praying for me to come along but He did. And I’m thankful I went down all the different paths necessary to get me to this point. Hopefully you’ll find something here to edify you individually, strengthen your relationships with others (whether in conversation with other women or in intimacy with your spouse), and glorify God with how you continue to develop an understanding of the sexuality He created you to experience.
*In my undergraduate work at Seattle Pacific University, I earned a bachelor’s of science in biology as well as a minor in chemistry and teaching credentials to teach 7th-12th grade biology and 7th-12th grade general science. After a few years of teaching, I went back to school for a master’s of science in science education from Montana State University.